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The Need to Lead With Compassion

Have you ever made a mistake and were treated as if you’d just committed the biggest sin in the world?

Have you ever had your heart broken?

Have you ever suffered a horrific loss?

Have you ever felt so depressed you didn’t want to get out of bed?

Have you ever experienced anxiety?

Have you ever been homesick?

Have you ever prayed for something for a long time and realized the prayer might not be answered in the way you like?

Have you ever been stabbed in the back by someone you trusted?

Have you ever sat by the bedside of a dying loved one that is being taken too soon?

Have you ever gone through a divorce?

Have you ever said something unkind to someone and later felt disgusted with yourself and like a total jerk?

Have you ever had a huge fight with your spouse or friend, but had to go on with your day with a smile on your face anyway?

Have you ever had to tell an aging parent that you’re going to need to move them in to a nursing home?

Have you ever been in an abusive relationship and don’t see a way out?

Have you ever struggled with major self-doubt or even self-loathing?

Have you ever received news of something growing in your body that threatens to take your life?

Have you ever struggled with changing a bad habit, but your attempts are fruitless?

Have you ever felt miserably alone in a crowded world?

Friends, we don’t know what people are going through in their personal lives.  There are all kinds of opportunities in this world for pain, heartache, and suffering.  More than likely, you’ve been there.  I’ve been there, too.

We’ve all experienced a rude checker at the grocery store, a less than friendly customer service rep after being on hold for 27 minutes, an aggressive driver on the road, or someone who snaps at us for no reason.  This could just be a clueless person with poor manners, but more than likely, it’s someone going through a difficult time and their burden is manifesting itself in ugly ways.

Can you imagine If everyone walked around with a news-type ticker detailing what turmoil or pain was going on under the surface?  I think we’d be shocked at what some are shouldering at any given moment.

Some people hide pain well, managing to keep a smile on their face.  However, If you were to really look in their eyes, you would see their smile is only on the surface.  Others may act rude, short-tempered, or angry.  This behavior, while not a good thing, is often caused by fear, powerlessness, rejection, guilt, and vulnerability.

While we can’t change the fact that pain and suffering will occur, we can make a conscious decision on how we conduct ourselves with those we come in contact with in-person, over the phone, or online.

Let’s open our hearts.  Let’s extend grace.  Let’s think before we speak and act.  Let’s listen.  Let’s look in each others eyes.  Let’s open our arms.  Let’s forgive.  Let’s be kind to one another.

Let’s lead with compassion.

With love,

Jill xx

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When Overcome by Tragedy

Tragedy.  Pain.  Terror.  Suffering.  Sadness.  Fear.  Injustice.  Evil. 

Are you feeling overcome by all the tragedy that’s going on in the world today?  I am.

As the death toll rises due to the horrific actions of a madman in Nice, France this week, I’m thinking of the individual lives that have been stolen away.  Who were they?  What did they dream about doing one day?  What made them laugh?  What were their hobbies?  Do they have siblings?  How did their family hear the news?  How will their family get through this?

I’ve thought about the driver/shooter too.  What took place in his life that would allow him to make the choice he did that day? Was he ever bullied?  Abused by his parents?  Was he innately evil?  Mentally ill?  Could someone have come alongside him in his life and have been a positive influence, so none of this would have happened?  How could this have been stopped??

We may never have answers to some of these questions, but I think it’s important to ask them.

Don’t allow the death toll numbers and multiple incidences of tragedy you hear on the news desensitize you to the individual lives and needs involved.   What most breaks your heart?  Is it the pain that these people’s families will experience?  Find out how you can serve people in your own community experiencing the pain of loss?  Is it that a child was orphaned?  Think about becoming a foster parent or an adoptive parent.  Is mental illness involved in a situation?  Find out how you can help.

Friends, instead of feeling overwhelmed, fear-filled, and sick from these senseless acts, use your heartache to help others.  Take action.  There are people out there, right in your own community, or maybe even across the world, that need you.

Thank you for taking this to heart and for being a source of good and light in this world.

Go and love.

Jill xx

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The Power of Love – 5 Ways to Spread Love Today

Have you ever seen something horrible take place and you feel like you–just one little person–have no way of making a difference that will matter? 

This feeling of powerlessness comes from a belief that you have no control over your environment.  Your environment including your own personal space, the space around your closest relationships, your neighborhood, your local, regional and state-wide community, your country, and the world as a whole.

The truth is we do have the power to take action and make a difference and it’s as simple as loving one another.

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” —  Leo Buscaglia

Did you catch that last part?  The potential to turn a life around.  Through simple acts of love.

There’s nothing in Leo’s list that you and I don’t have the power to initiate today.

Here are five ideas to take action and begin spreading love today:

#RANDOMLOVELETTER: I recently came across an Instagram challenge called #randomloveletter.  The creators of this challenge asked participants to write a positive note and post it in a public place (power pole, library book, restaurant menu, park bench, waiting room) for someone to find.  No fancy stationary necessary.  Just write your note on a post-it, scratch pad paper, or the back of a recycled piece of paper.  Who knows how your written words will bless someone?

There’s an annual challenge that takes place in June every year in which you place your love letter somewhere, take a picture and tag it with #randomloveletter on Instagram and/or Twitter.  Click here for the 2016 challenge recap and to get some inspiration for your notes.  You may choose to participate in this challenge each year, but let’s agree to keep the love flowing throughout the year.  Is there such thing as too many random love letters?  I think not.

MORE LOVE LETTERS:  Hannah Brencher founded a movement whose mission is to “Make Love Famous”.  How awesome is that!! There are three ways to participate and help Hannah with her mission:

  1. Mail a letter to someone who is experiencing a tough spot in their lives.  The love letter recipients have been secretly nominated and will receive the surprise love letters from people like you and me from across the globe.  Their nomination stories appear right here.  Do you know someone who could use a good dose of love right now?  Click here to nominate them.
  2. Leave a letter.  Much like the #RandomLoveLetter, you write a lovely letter and leave it in a public place for someone to find.
  3. Know a college student?  Hannah has started a movement in which students can start a More Love Letters chapter on their campus.  This so would have been up my alley when I was in college!!

PAY IT FORWARD:  I’m sure you’ve heard of this idea…you respond to a person’s kindness to oneself by being kind to someone else. Maybe you buy a cup of coffee for the unsuspecting person behind you in line, or extend a wish of goodwill to a stranger you cross paths with, or call a helpful clerk’s supervisor to praise their excellent customer service.  All these gestures promote love and goodwill.

There’s an actual day to pay it forward too! Although I hope you won’t wait to pay it forward, the next official day is April 28, 2017.  While you’re paying it forward throughout the year, you could also be planning on a big push for that actual day with your friends, kids, church group, or school.  Get people excited and talking about it.  The creators of this day are hoping to inspire over 10 million acts of kindness around the world on April 28, 2017. Spread the love, friends!

The Pay It Forward Day website has some great resources and ideas on how to get involved for individuals, businesses, and schools.  Check that out here.

VIRTUALLY SHARE RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS STORIES TO INSPIRE OTHERS:  Performing a random act of kindness is just like the pay it forward idea, but because we live in a digital age and so many of us spend heaps of time online, why not focus on spreading love virtually through inspiring stories of random acts of kindness.  The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation has a great website with a collection of these types of inspiring stories, videos, and quotes that you can share with others to light up their day.  Click here to be inspired and share away!

THE POWER OF PRAYER:  Lift your hearts and your voices in prayer, my friends.  My faith calls me to pray without ceasing and I’ve seen firsthand how prayer changes things.  God is LOVE and He is listening.

Friends, I hope you’ve been inspired to take action and love boldly today.

Here’s to changing the world with one act of love at a time!

With love,

Jill

P.S. Since we’re on the subject of love…did you know there’s a whole day committed to hugging?  For real!  National Hugging Day takes place every year on January 21st. Why wait though?  Let’s get some practice and go hug on someone today.